To avoid Family crack

                                                              

                                                             

 All families are different, and all families have their own issues, but with the right amount of work and determination, you can make your family life the very best it can be, by developing your relationships and learning more about yourself and your relatives. No one's family life is perfect; but We can make ours good with considering the  following :

Understanding our family well. 

If we don't understand then there can be many misunderstandings and fights. Be with them whenever we can and get to know them better. A lot of families now don't get to know each other too well because they're too busy. Plan some family time, like, a movie, or a family game, or even as little as eating dinner together.

Respecting our Family:

Our children, your wife/husband are now yours but remember at the end of the day they are also humans. They also have an opinion or suggestion. Sometimes it can be bad or good. We should never be angry with someone's opinion, they have their own opinions. No one is s perfect.

1    Being polite to our family is the first step for respecting them. It also means learning how to disagree and listen to each other even when upset

2    We must remember to Say "please" and "thank you" and “excuse me” etc to all even to our family members.  It's important to pay attention to the tone we’re using when talking to family our members.

3    We must talk about our feelings instead of pointing      blame.

4  Listen to what the other person say. Listening is the                     powerful gift from god

5   We must not shout or get wild if any one does wrong     thing

6          We must ready to change our mind

Giving time to our family. 

      No one wants to be ignored just for some meeting or work. We must give time to each and every one of them so we can understand every individual properly and this can prevent any misunderstandings in the future.

Treating everyone as equal. 

    Whether its our maid or stepchild, they also deserve love and affection from you as you deserve from your wife/husband or from your own child. We must treat everyone like us, and getting along with our family should be easy

Never shouting at any one:

    This can create hatred for you in their hearts. By simply making them understand can do a lot.

If we have difficulty with anger problems, we may have a temper, or losing our patience and expressing our anger ineffectively, can strain our personal and work relationships. Finding ways to control our temper and reduce outbursts of anger may improve the quality of our life and our interpersonal relationship

Never discriminate any one even family members.

We must learn to compromise people including our family members.

Helping to each other.

     When any one needs our help, including our aged parents we must, help them. Doing little things such as holding the door for them, or helping someone with homework.

Organizing surprise birthday parties and celebrating any individual's achievements can really help.

Avoid using offensive and abusive words against each other or our family will get cross and start shouting at us.

Sometimes teenagers can feel sad or lonely. 

   First ask them about it and if they don't want to share then it’s OK. If we think that something is really bad, ask their close friends and help him/her

We should never ever break any promise. 

   This can hurt them or make them feel that we are a liar and every time will break promises.

We must learn to Forgive

    Forgiveness is great gift from god. If done thoughtfully and effectively, it will transform the way we think, feel, and live our life. By taking action, changing our thoughts, shifting our emotions and seeking guidance from numerous valuable sources we will know how to forgive others, and ourselves.

Make them realize in an easy way.

    If someone in our family has done something wrong or have betrayed our trust, make them realize their mistake in an easy way. We shout not yell or use abusive language. 

Parental care to our children

1       Spend time with each other

2       Support our family members' interests

3      Offer comfort when someone is sad.

4      Being Respectful to our Kids    

5      Learn our family members' love languages.

       Giving gifts, calling their pet names and               affectionate touches and kisses etc

6     Offer encouragement to kids.
7.   Set boundaries for our child. Tell them to   cleaning their rooms etc in polite word instead of  putting harsh word.

      Compromise is the most valuable tool we have.

  If our teenager feels reluctant to talk to us, he or she                    may be upset about something or being bullied. Ask if everything is okay and win over their trust.

·         When someone ask us to do his/her work try to do it at that time itself. We should not postpone it.

·         If the work is really important then try to make them understand and promise about next time.

·         Always learn to forgive when we get into a fight with our parents. Just tell them sorry, kiss them, hug them, and make them to know how much we love them.

·         Don't upset them by telling them you don't belong in the family or no one loves you. Apologize to them no matter how bad the scolding gets and hug or kiss them. They will calm down.

·         Do not get upset when our mum/dad is telling us something and we think they are shouting at us because they are trying to teach us something important.

·         Try to be supportive and encouraging!

        Avoiding Angry mood and actions

Understanding each others responsibilities
Minding our human behavior- will make happy family.